Single Supermama

because seriously, what the hell will I do if I can’t laugh about it?

making a list and checking it twice

A few months back, Ms. Single Mama sent a tweet to another dating mom that really hit home for me. She said, “Do you find you choose the men you date or are they choosing you?” Wow. That was eye opening. I’ve been asked on dates. I can’t remember ever saying no – not one time in my entire life. And every date except one has turned into a long term relationship. One ended in marriage, one in a baby. Does that seem odd to anyone else, or just me? I wonder if it might be helpful for me to figure out what I might be looking for, hypothetically, in the opposite sex. Preferably before I start dating again.

Many smart people have spoken of making a list of the qualities they would want in a mate. It’s a great idea. And my dear friend Rowan wrote a post in my honor today, encouraging me to do so. I’m still not sure I’m ready. But I’ve printed her list out and posted it in my home office (aka bedroom). And it just might be the impetus I need.

Have you ever made a list? Would you be willing to share what qualities you’ve added to it?

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June 27th 2009
Tags: dating

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my own hope

The fact that I'm not dating right now, or even thinking about dating in the near future, has given me some space to think that I have needed for a very long time. It's given me room to consider some important things about myself, about what is important to me, ...
June 25th 2009
Tags: food, work

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random: no describable deterministic pattern

Random Thought #1: Depression sucks This post is a gathering of random thoughts, a la Ts-Quest (who writes her blog posts in this format). Who also, speaking of which, I am sending positive thoughts out into the universe for. I have had two bouts with depression in my life, where I ...
June 21st 2009
Tags: gardening, recipes

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the first jam of summer

What a lovely way to spend a Saturday. First, we went berry picking with friends. Clara ate her weight in strawberries while the rest of us filled our buckets. Then we canned strawberry jam. What in the world is better than homemade strawberry jam that you helped make yourself? If you haven't ...
June 18th 2009
Tags: money

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my financial life raft

Clara just turned two, and things are slowly easing up around here for me, little by little. The older she gets, and the more she sleeps (!) the more sane I feel. It's all relative, obviously. I did say more sane. Which is not the same as SANE per se. ...
June 15th 2009
Tags: gardening

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cluck cluck cluck

About two months ago, Joy and I were chatting about chickens on a Saturday morning. And somehow, by that very afternoon, we had 4 baby chicks living in our kitchen. I'm not really known for my skills in thinking things through. I'm more of a fun-loving... fly-by-the-seat-of-my-pants kind of a ...

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