A few months back, Ms. Single Mama sent a tweet to another dating mom that really hit home for me. She said, “Do you find you choose the men you date or are they choosing you?” Wow. That was eye opening. I’ve been asked on dates. I can’t remember ever saying no – not one time in my entire life. And every date except one has turned into a long term relationship. One ended in marriage, one in a baby. Does that seem odd to anyone else, or just me? I wonder if it might be helpful for me to figure out what I might be looking for, hypothetically, in the opposite sex. Preferably before I start dating again.

Many smart people have spoken of making a list of the qualities they would want in a mate. It’s a great idea. And my dear friend Rowan wrote a post in my honor today, encouraging me to do so. I’m still not sure I’m ready. But I’ve printed her list out and posted it in my home office (aka bedroom). And it just might be the impetus I need.

Have you ever made a list? Would you be willing to share what qualities you’ve added to it?